Our ideas about identity are fundamental to all that we do and how we navigate through life. Those that know who they are and have established a firm foundation of their identity thrive and move through life living well. I once read that one of the top five regrets of the dying was not having the courage to live their life in a manner that was true to them rather than the one that was expected of them.
I remember standing in front of my class feeling slightly awkward as I recited what I had prepared with my father the night before.
“My name is Beatrice Adoma Yeboah. I am 10 years old. I come from Ghana. My father’s name is Theophilus Yeboah. My mother’s name is Beatrice Yeboah. I have 3 sisters and 2 brothers. My favourite colour is pink. I enjoy reading and singing. When I grow up I want to be an architect.”
Who Am I?
However, before the question of identity can be answered one has to be able to answer the following questions coherently, meaningfully, and logically:
- The question of origin: where do I come from?
- The question of meaning: why am I here and what is my purpose?
- The question of morality: how do I distinguish between good and evil?
- The question of destiny: where do I go when I die?
These questions can be answered through correspondence and then through coherence. Correspondence brings the acquiring of information. Information is never good or bad on its own, but it is the application of that information that, in a coherent and logical manner, through reasoning that shapes your identity.
You are a spiritual being in a human form. Sometimes you simply desire to connect with a soul who feels like home. Each of us are unique like the axe and the blade. Each sharp but cannot cut the same things. We are meant to complete each other not to compete with each other. We were made for community. All in the spirit of #ubuntu.
There are 3 things that make you sacred as a human being and should never be violated.
- Your race: no one has a right to mock or subjugate you for your race.
- Your sexuality: no one has a right to exploit your sexuality.
- Your faith: no one has a right to deny you of the right to your beliefs.
All these things are the core of who you are. You are a masterpiece and a work in progress. Don’t be afraid to start over again. This time you won’t be starting from scratch, you will be starting from the point of experience.
In an age where the pressure to conform to the views and ways of others is at its peak, it calls for a new kind of brave; the courage to live your life as you, unapologetically YOU.
Beatrice is the founder of Akoma Talks. She has a heart to motivate, inspire, support and positively influence women and men in Namibia and beyond. Akoma means “heart”. This platform she believes is a way to talk about life, its moments, challenges, issues that affect us and in so doing, find healing and the tools to live well.